love is a choice

a very dear friend of mine & were talking today, and we were talking about relationships and some of the troubles that can come with them. I think when you 1st get married, or you are even dreaming of the prospect of getting married, you have these ideas in your head that once you get married, that all of your problems, including loneliness, financial troubles, and just security of having someone there will all just fix themselves. I am here to tell the world that, it just isn't so...Dean & I have what I would call a pretty good marriage, but I still experience loneliness, $ trouble, and insecurities all the time. & girls, let me let you in on a little secret...the images that you see on tv, movies, books, and magazines are just not true...in fact, I think it is the world's (the enemy's) way to paralyze us with dissatisfaction in our own relationships. Now I know that it would be great if it were like that....he comes home with flowers, and wants to take you out to dinner 2-3 times a month (or a week :). But even if he comes home tired and just wants to veg out in front of the TV, or even if he is a bit grumpy...love is a choice. I may not feel in love all the time, but I choose to love Dean every day...even when he is grumpy. And I choose to forgive him for when he is grumpy, not because he asks, but because I love him and I have to. It doesn't excuse his grumpiness, & it doesn't make it ok, but it makes it ok for me because I have released it and given it to God, and now it is between God & him, not me and him. And I don't have to hold on to the toxic resentment that will eventually divide us if it is not let go of. I don't know if this makes any sense, and maybe I am rambling...but I have had a request for more writing and less pictures :)
have a beautiful day...